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Guts or Cowardice?

July 31, 2008

Since my dad was out of town, i dropped in on mom to say Hi and see what she was upto.. While chit chatting over a cup of Tea, she mentioned that my sister’s college mate’s sister had committed suicide.

I was stumped..

Did not know what to say…

After a few minutes, mom continued –

Apparently the girl’s dad was suffering from Terminal cancer, mom had passed away couple of years back and she was going through a lot of stress at work. The younger daughter is my sister’s college mate and also on the student union council…

The girl who committed suicide was going through a rough patch and would come home in the evening everday and complain to my sis’s friend about how work sucks, etc… and 2days back, one evening she just up and took her own life…

I thought to myself – what guts the girl must have had to do something like this [ i totally think one needs plenty of will power n courage to commit suicide)..

On the other hand, the other part of me felt she was escaping life, by taking the easy way out..[ not having to deal with her problems, no more worrying about work, etc]

But did she think about the others around her?

Did it run through her mind that her dad and sis are likely to be in shock and will never get over this

Did it maybe strike her that there is bound to be a way out

Or did she do this cos she dint have anyone to talk to/. share her problems with.. or did they overwhelm her to a point where she stopped thinking rationally?

Infact these are some thoughts that run in my mind everytime i read about someone committing suicide, killing themselves…

May God give the family the strength they need to get through this!!

6 Comments leave one →
  1. July 31, 2008 3:09 pm

    Guts I’d say…guts…and alot of it to end your own life knowing fully well how upset and shock people will be at your departure…
    it’s also sad as well that she couldnt turn to those same people for help…
    but how many people you know walk around with smiles on their faces and pain in their hearts..i know i couldnt do it..i have too much people depending on me..but i think all of us on some level or the other have been tempted..
    May her soul rest in peace

  2. July 31, 2008 3:46 pm

    i agree. to do such an act, u need to have REAL GUTS. i cant even think of ending my life.
    i too feel, the suicide commiters try to run away from problems and responsibilities. It is sad to know that suicides happen everywhere. to suicide, i say, u need low morale and high guts. a rare combination.
    May her soul rest in peace.

  3. July 31, 2008 4:09 pm

    hmm…she must have thought about others….but she must have been troubled so much,that they looked immaterial….

  4. July 31, 2008 9:38 pm

    Yes, one needs loads of guts to do something like this.
    But this guts is not in the positive sense. Its cowardice. She had to fight through it. Nothing comes easy. Its easier to escape from life, but its better to live through it and fight back.
    Even if one is troubled a lot, they have to consider the conseuqences before taking up such decisions.

  5. August 2, 2008 11:16 am

    its difficult for most of the people to comprehend why some commit suicid. For me it has to guts and prolly i will never be able to do so in the worst of the conditons!

    but those who commit or attempt, the mental state is so disheveled that they can’t really thnk straight and that gives them courage

    one can’t think and commit suicide, it just happens… and the others who try to do that every now and then are either sympathy seekers (pathologically speaking) or have serious mental health problem!

  6. August 4, 2008 8:53 pm

    You said she had a little sister? And mother gone already with father about to go? Well, thats makes situation pretty bad for the younger sister, doesn’t it?
    Now she have to face the world alone or go same way as her elder sister.
    May be she will learn from her sister’s mistake.
    Or may be….

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